If you want to become an expert at speaking to someone you’re attracted to then this is for you.
Most people find it hard to walk up and start speaking to anyone they find attractive.
Once you practice the skills herein you’ll be able to speak to anyone and find the partner of your dreams.
Lots of people I’ve spoken to seem interested in this, so I think it’s something I need to go into in more detail.
Let’s get the science out the way
I’ve already touched on this in my rehearse life article, so if you want to understand it deeper then read that first. I’ll just go over the basics.
You have a part of your brain called the amygdala. I know, what a cool name. It deals with your body’s flight or flight response. For the purpose of keeping it simple, let’s say it deals with (*shyness, lack of confidence, anxiety and fear *).
If you expose yourself to something you are (*1 of the big 4 above*) about, your amygdala will learn there is nothing to be afraid of and it will reprogram itself to feel no (*1 of the 4*) in those situations.
As an example, let’s say you were afraid to dive off the 10 meter diving board. Every time you walked to the edge you got scared. Once you finally dive off it (expose yourself) and nothing bad happens, your amygdala will realize it doesn’t need to be afraid anymore and you can do it easily from then on.
The pick-up artist trick
If you’ve read ‘The Game’ before, you know the teacher gets the student to walk around the club asking out hundreds of different girls. They aren’t expecting to succeed with any of them. The trick is to ask out enough girls until they can finally ask out anyone without getting nervous.
What they don’t explain is the science behind it. What actually happens is you ask out enough girls and your amygdala will learn not to be nervous anymore. It has reprogrammed itself and allows you to be calm/confident.
So now you should understand how the amygdala works. Let’s explain what it has to do with lucid dreaming.
The secret sauce
Your brain doesn’t know the difference between the dream world and reality. I know I’ve spoke about this before, but you must understand if it did you would know you were dreaming every night.
For those of us who lucid dream we know it can sometimes seem real enough that we doubt ourselves we are actually dreaming. Sometimes I have to float or push my finger through a wall just to be sure. It’s that real. Our brain is fighting us to try and convince us it’s a dream at all times.
When people want to expose themselves to (*1 of the 4*) they normally do it by visualization. People go to a hypnotist and visualize situations while under a trance. This is great for phobias. Sportsmen/women visualize before a big game/shot/basket/putt, whatever. And it works.
Lucid dreaming just takes visualization to a new level and it’s great for reprogramming your amygdala. My guess is in the near future therapists will be teaching people to lucid dream and telling them what to do in the dream world to get rid of their problems.
Inside the dream
In a lucid dream you will run into countless dream characters, both men and women. Some will speak to you; some you will have to go up and make conversation with. This is just normal. You won’t be alone all the time.
To reprogram your amygdala you only need to speak to them. Get comfortable speaking to whoever you’re not comfortable with at the moment.
If you want to speak to girls/guys in a nightclub you will have to find a nightclub. You can do this by conjuring up a door/portal using the conjure up anything technique. Or if you have your own technique you can use that.
When I’ve wanted to go somewhere in the past I’ve used a dream door, jumped in a taxi and asked to be taken there, or I’ve just started flying and imagined the destination I want to arrive at. These are no hard fast rules.
Do what works for you
It doesn’t need to be a nightclub, I’m just using that as an example. It could be:
- In a library
- On the street
- In work
- At college
- On a beach
- In a bus
Whatever, it doesn’t matter. You can practice anywhere and your amygdala will reprogram itself.
I’ve played about with my amygdala, but I haven’t done it to specifically speak to women. I’m just using the science and putting the two together. If something was perfectly round you could say it would roll down a hill without actually seeing it roll down a hill. Same difference.
Obviously it’s not something that will happen tonight. First you will need to become lucid, then you will need to build up the skills to stay in the dream and manipulate it. I only tell you now because it might give you the motivation to try harder, and the quicker you start practicing lucid dreaming, the quicker you’ll be able to do it.
If you want to learn quickly then download my book. The book and follow-up emails will guide you to your first lucid dream. If not, you can follow the tips in the start here section.
Let me know what you think below. This is really going to change the future of how we do things. Not just dating, but everything.
Practice makes perfect, right?